You and your ex-boyfriend broke up recently and now you want
him back? Given that this is a highly sensitive issue, the first thing you need
to do before taking any steps towards getting him back is to make sure you
actually want him back. Getting over a breakup is difficult and the thought of getting back together with your ex crossed the
mind of every person that has recently broken up. However, you need to know
what you want and be real about it. Don’t just focus on what was good in your
relationship. Think of the reasons you broke up, his annoying habits, bad
experiences, have an objective bigger picture and make the final decision of
whether or not making up is a good idea for you two. If the answer is yes,
check out some ideas that might work on your ex.
The
30-day rule
The first and most important rule is not contacting your ex
for about 4 weeks. This may sound stupid or immature, but don’t be fooled, it’s
actually necessary. Regardless of who was the one who initiated the breakup,
you are both an emotional mess. This is why the no-contact rule is important.
If you want to get back together with your ex, he cannot see you disheveled.
All the crying and sobbing should be done privately and, since you cannot be
held reasonable during this period, you shouldn’t contact your ex at all. Any
attempt of communication, you will come across as needy or desperate and that’s
a deal-breaker for guys.
Reaching out
After the critical month is over, it’s time take the
initiative. If you’re wondering how to make the first move, a simple
phone call will suffice. During the encounter, you shouldn’t act like
everything is back to normal. Thread carefully, so will he. Talk about what
you’ve been doing lately and don’t lie and try to be pretentious, he will see
through it and all your efforts will go down the drain. Be stunning and aware
of how amazing you are. This self-esteem of yours will make him want you back
and you shouldn’t make it easy for him.
Self-improvement
After you’ve seen what not to do during this month of not
seeing your ex, you might be wondering what it is that you actually should do.
You need to work on yourself, both physically and mentally. Hit the gym or go
running regularly, take care of your health and your looks. Pamper yourself and
keep your skin, your nails and hair glowing; regardless of how crazy this may
sound, try to become the best version of yourself during this month. You want
your first encounter to be unforgettable for him and you want to leave him
breathless and sorry for not having you in his life anymore.
Avoid common mistakes
The no-contact rule is best for keeping you from making fatal
mistakes on the road to making up. During the initial period after the breakup,
anything you do regarding your ex will be a huge mistake. Don’t use pity to get
him back, don’t try to make him jealous, and don’t stalk him. The minute he
sees your pathetic attempts through, you’ll lose every chance of getting back together.
Don’t
settle
If you two do decide to get back together, don’t fall into
the same traps from the past. Think of this as a new relationship which needs
to be an improved version of the old one. There’s a reason the old one fell
apart, work on that together and change things. Don’t take anything for granted
or let him do the same just because you’re happy you’re back together.
Finally, don’t think of these tips as rules, but guidelines.
People are complicated and they function in different ways. There’s always
space for adjusting and making exceptions. In the end, know that not every
relationship can be mended and there’s a reason for that, too.
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