Well we
all know how a parent-child relationship can be. The battle of agreements, will
and emotional conflicts that occur between both are normal. But if you grew up
with parents, who are extra caring, super loving and thus really strict, then
you will be able to relate to various points in this post.
A parent always wants a better life for
their children and to keep their kid free from troubles for a better future
while a child growing up with a strict parents always gets the feeling of being
deprived of free will giving rise to conflicts and arguments. Well, if you grew
up as a child with strict parents, then these points below are something you
totally can understand:
1. You can’t go out to play because you need to study
As a kid
growing up with strict parents, a lot of you readers can relate how parents
focus so much on studies. Taking extra tuition, coaching classes, spending
evenings on the study table and not wasting any time. Going out to play with
your friends isn’t an option as priority focuses on education so according to
strict parents you need to stay home and study, not go out and play.
2. Academic Pressure and Expectation from Parents
Those of you who grew up with strict parents
totally can understand how much expectations your parents had when it comes to
scoring high grades in your exams and tests and how much pressure academics had
on you. Though we all know and understand as we grew up, why parents actually
did all of that for us to have a better life and relating how parents had huge
expectations when even a little drop in your grades meant your parents cutting
off your benefits and allowances. How even a little fall in your academic
grades meant that your parents cut down the privileges you had, whether it be
the amount of tv you watched or no to computers or your cell phone being taken
away.
3. You cannot go to a party because there will be alcohol
Strict parents are always there to guard
their children as much as possible and that means to guard their growing
teenage child from every social influence. So that means going to a party or
social gathering with friends is a complete NO-NO as there will be alcohol.
Though I think it is okay for a parent to be concerned about their child’s social
influences but I guess a teenager should also be allowed a little freedom so
that as an adult they understand how it is to be responsible and yes, how it is
to drink responsibly too.
4. You can’t drive and you can’t get a bike because you will
crash it and die
Strict
parents are protective and protective also that the child may get physically
hurt. So a lot of strict parents don’t allow their teenage children to learn
how to drive or ride and getting a motorbike is a big long dream. I know a lot
of road accidents happen and allowing a newbie to drive would be very risky
too. But one cannot hold the child under his arms forever so someday one has to
learn how to be careful and responsible so it is okay to be protective but also
a little freedom and a chance to learn, develop skills and to be responsible
should be given.
5. You’re Smoking and you’re caught: Prepare yourself for the
worst nightmare of your life
Smoking is
bad, not only for you but for everyone around you. Strict parents always try to
keep their children away from things like cigarettes so that they are less
likely to develop the habit of smoking. But when a strict parent catches the
teenage child smoking, then here it goes, the worst nightmare for a teenager.
The parent taking full responsibility to make sure the habit is gone and a lot
of lectures every day, and maybe even some good thrashing (my Indian fellows
may totally relate). I see that a lot of strict parents do one thing very wrong
that is taunting their children that they smoke, do drugs or they have been
smoking even if they don’t which leads to the child being stressed, lonely and
actually taking up smoking due to the frequent taunting.
6. You can’t go there because they offer drugs to you there
Remember
whenever you told your parents you’re going somewhere or visiting a friend or
going for a small day out somewhere, your parents said NO strictly and the
reason would be the locality has a lot of drug addicts and you will probably
end up getting drugged. And yes, also how people you hang out look like drug
addicts and how you may end up being one.
7. You Need to Come Home Now!
Growing up
with strict parents means you know how you have timings to reach home and you
need to hurry up home quickly before your parents start calling you and
freaking out you’re kidnapped. Yes, the timings depends upon how strict your
parents are and some don’t even allow their teenaged children to stay out after
sun set so no nightlife either. Remember how you missed calls from your parents
and then they assume you’re either dead or kidnapped and freak out so much? I
mean probably parents care for you and love you but sometimes your parents
calling you up every hour to check whether you’re okay may not seem quite okay
either.
8. You can’t buy that because money doesn’t grow on trees
That’s the
favorite line every strict parents use. How readily parents are always there to
spend every bit of their hard earned cash for your better life but whenever you
wanted that expensive jacket or the gaming console you always wanted, your
parents said the same thing. How those could impact your education and result
in low grades and you not getting a job in the future and your future being
ruined.
9. They Know The Best For Us
Strict
parents means them taking every decision for you. I know parents wants the best
for us but sometimes they fail to realize to ask or discuss stuffs about their
child’s life with them. A lot of misunderstanding happen during these times
when it comes to life changing decisions. Especially when parents want their
kids to pursue a particular course or path on education while the kid has some
other plans for future. I think it is really wrong to force a growing child to
pursue an education path or a course that he doesn’t love doing. I think it is
a good idea to hear out their child’s opinion and side of the story also about
what they really want to do with their life and maybe discuss and support them.
10. You never grow up
Having
strict parent means their kids never grow up for them and sometimes it is so
literal. Parents should realize that their child is growing up as well and
treat them accordingly. A 17 year old being treated as a 7 year old with so
much care and strictness may land up having a worse impact with a lot of arguments,
and loosening of the parent-child relationship. I know parents love their
children and they are always little kids for them but one should also realize
that their children are growing up and with a proper gesture should maintain a
healthy relationship with them and treat as how it should be with that aged
children.
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